Actually, it's more like 98% of adults walking the earth have inner child issues.
What do I mean by that?
Well, we look like adults. We ARE in theory adults; 18 or older. We may have careers, families, responsibilities...all indicators that we are adults however, there is usually a little wounded child inside screaming to be heard, seen, loved, validated, etc, etc ,etc.
And we go through life thinking everything is fine..knowing deep down inside something is missing. It's like a yearning of sorts. We are all like 'swiss cheese' with these holes needing to be filled. So we walk the earth like lemmings and do what others are doing to fill the holes... the voids of what we didn't get when we were very small children.
Here's my drawn out analogy....
Think about the last time you got ugly drunk. You knew you were loaded but that didn't stop you from more consumption. It all seemed like a good idea at the time. You were having a blast before the room began to spin and your slurring became more noticeable to everyone but you. You may have had a girlfriend hold your hair so you could vomit IN the toilet rather than on the wall. Remember those days? Good times.
Now, think about the next day as you were hungover, head pounding, room spinning. Do you remember being hungry? Do you remember eating anything and everything at the time to ease the pain, 'fill the void' of that empty gut? You continued to eat but were never satiated because all you really needed was.... WATER!
So, that's what we do as adults with inner child issues. We try to fill the void with whatever we can to feel satiated when all we really need is LOVE.
When we were children all we knew was our home life which was pretty much dictated by our parents and our older siblings. We would hear everything and interpret it to our reality. When our parents spit responses to our requests for attention with phrases like "I'm too tired to read to you" or "I'm too busy, go play with your sister", we interpreted those responses as "Im not good enough". We then carried that core belief around with us in all aspects of our lives. Then we wonder why we have difficulty with relationships, finances, body images, etc.
How to grow up and become a whole adult?
Well, that takes time and some actual work. Healing your inner child allows you to release the emotional baggage you've been carrying around from your past and become a healthy adult. As you heal, the holes of the 'swiss cheese' begin to close up as you are filling them with much needed self love, forgiveness, trust and validation. When you are integrating the little boy or girl who needed love so desperately with the adult you are today, you begin to see things in a different light. You are not a wounded little child anymore who is afraid and a victim of your life. You see things from the eyes of a whole individual with enough love to give others. You no longer come from a place of weakness but from strength.
Taking the time to heal that wounded little child within is the best work I've done on myself to date. No doubt there are triggers that continue to push my buttons but presently, I handle them in an adult fashion protecting myself and my heart.
Make the time to work on yourself. In the end you will have no regret!
I love you all! Thanks for taking the time to read this and I hope it helped on some level!
Love and Blessings~
Celeste
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